I posted on Facebook a few days ago that I have a problem with "yardsticking".
(Yardsticking: comparing yourself to your friends/acquaintances, especially based on posts to social media)
One of my best friends has a cool new office job.
All of my (female) coworkers at one of my jobs are impossibly thin (and one is a model!).
Another of my best friends just got a new Prius.
Former coworkers of mine are traveling, buying cute clothes, etc.
Some of my sorority sisters get way better grades/internships/jobs than I do.
...And I'm completely jealous. I mean absolutely green with envy. I look at my own life in comparison and I feel physically sick.
Why don't I have a job that I really love? Why can't I buy a new car? Why am I still overweight and unhappy about it? I wish I could afford to buy new clothes and go on trips! My GPA has slipped an entire point, what's wrong with me? I'm never going to get a better job/internship/scholarship...
You get the idea.
But then one late night (because that's always the time I have really introspective thoughts) I realized that I don't have any of those things because of one person:
Myself.
I don't have a job I love because I'm afraid to do what I need to do to really put myself out there.
I don't have the body I want because I don't eat a healthy diet and I don't exercise.
I don't have a Prius because I'm still paying off my Hyundai.
I haven't traveled or bought clothes because I don't budget my money wisely (or make enough, but that's a different post...and related to my first point).
My GPA slipped so far because I didn't have or do what was necessary to get good grades (it's hard to study when you legitimately can't afford textbooks...the beginning of the year was rough). I don't apply myself enough.
The only person standing in the way of what I consider successful is myself.
The only person standing in your way is you.
~Megan
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